Why Women in Business Grow Faster In Community
Someone sent me a DM last week. She said, “I’ve been feeling like I need a supportive community recently.”
My first response was to ask her two questions:
What specifically are you looking for?
And why do you think community will solve it?
Because here’s what I’ve noticed. Many of us feel like community would help. We sense it intuitively. And yet, when it comes to actually building our businesses, most women are doing it completely alone.
And that’s interesting, isn’t it?
We don’t do this with other hard things in our lives.
Think about raising children. Historically, people raised kids near their parents, siblings, and extended family. Everyone had eyes on everyone else’s children. The adults supported one another. The kids grew up together.
There’s a reason people say it takes a village.
We understand that raising children is hard and that needing support doesn’t make us weak or incapable.
But when it comes to business, we tell ourselves a different story.
We think doing it alone makes us look:
More competent.
More capable.
More serious.
We take pride in being self-made. In figuring it out ourselves. In not needing anyone.
What You’re Actually Carrying
Here’s what’s probably happening in your head right now.
You’re holding:
Unfinished decisions about pricing, offers, and opportunities
A client conversation that didn’t go the way you wanted
Ideas you’re excited about, but haven’t said out loud yet
You’re also carrying quieter worries you don’t talk about.
What if no one actually wants this?
What if I’m not as good at this as I think I am?
Most women building small businesses don’t realize how much mental weight they’re carrying. It isn’t just the work. It’s the constant background hum of thoughts, doubts, ideas, and half-made decisions.
When you carry all of that alone, it doesn’t just slow you down. It distorts your thinking.
What Community Changes
When you bring what you’re carrying into the right kind of community, very real things shift.
Here’s what actually changes.
#1: Your Thinking Moves Out of Your Head
Saying something out loud to people who understand business changes how you hear it.
The problem clarifies. The question sharpens. Sometimes you solve it yourself mid-sentence.
I see this constantly. A woman starts describing what she’s stuck on, pauses, and says, “Oh. I think I know what I need to do.”
That’s not magic. It’s what happens when your thinking leaves your head and enters the room.
#2: You Get Perspective You Can’t Create Alone
I think about a consultant who came to one of my retreats with a question around her niche.
She had recently landed on a process that was foolproof at getting results for her clients. But she wasn't sure about leaning fully into that niche - nonprofits.
She had questions about the sustainability of it. Would there be enough work? Would they understand the value and be able to make the investment? Or was she limiting herself by going so narrow?
She brought it to the group.
And what happened next was exactly what I see happen over and over in the right rooms: the women didn't tell her what to do. They asked questions. They shared their own experiences with niche decisions. Someone talked about messaging to nonprofits. Another shared how her most loyal clients came from going narrow, not from staying broad. Someone else asked, "What if the constraint isn't the niche… what if it's how you're positioning the value?"
She listened. She absorbed it all. She reflected on how this input intersected with what she knew about her own business.
And by the end of the conversation, she had clarity she couldn't have created alone. Because she got to think out loud with people who understood the nuance of the decision and weren't attached to the outcome.
That's what the right room does. It gives you access to perspectives you literally can't generate on your own and helps you see what you couldn't see before.
#3: You See Your Own Patterns Reflected Back
One of the most underrated benefits of community is what you learn by watching others.
You hear someone talk about pricing and recognize why you’re undercharging. You watch someone work through a boundary issue and see your own habit of over-delivering.
This is why group mentorship is so powerful. You’re not just getting support on your own challenges. You’re learning from everyone else’s patterns, too.
#4: You Move Faster
What might take weeks or months to work through alone can shift in a single conversation.
Not because someone gives you the answer, but because you get to think out loud, get challenged, gain perspective, and feel supported at the same time.
The velocity is different.
Why It Has to Be the Right Room
Not all community helps.
Some rooms:
Drain your energy
Keep you stuck
Make you feel smaller instead of clearer
I’ve been in rooms where it didn’t feel safe to say what was actually going on. Where the energy was competitive instead of collaborative.
And I’ve been in rooms that changed everything. Rooms where I thought more clearly. Where I felt both supported and challenged. Where I left feeling more like myself.
So what makes a community actually work?
Intentional Curation
The right room brings together people in a similar season of business. Not identical models, but shared values, commitment, and level of seriousness.
Depth Over Breadth
Surface-level networking doesn’t create change. You need space to work through real challenges, not just talk about what you’re working on.
Guidance Plus Peers
You need mentorship from someone who can see around corners. And peers who understand what it’s like to be building right now.
Psychological Safety
This is the foundation.
You need to be able to say the thing you’re embarrassed to say. The fear you haven’t voiced. The mistake you made.
That’s where real breakthroughs happen.
What Becomes Possible When You’re Not Doing It Alone
In the right room, you stop spinning.
You make clearer decisions because you’re thinking alongside other smart people, not just inside your own head.
You:
Move through obstacles faster
Build momentum without burning out
Stop carrying everything by yourself
And something else happens. You remember who you are as a business owner.
Isolation makes it easy to lose touch with your vision. The right community reflects you back to yourself.
The women who grow most consistently aren’t dependent on community. They’re intentional about it. They know that every new level brings new challenges, and they choose not to figure them out alone.
You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
Let me come back to that DM I mentioned at the beginning.
When that woman said she needed community, what she was really asking was, How do I stop doing this alone?
And this is what I told her.
The right community doesn’t just make you feel better. It helps you think more clearly. Decide more confidently. Grow more intentionally.
The right community:
Gives you access to perspectives you can’t generate on your own
Externalizes what you’ve been carrying
Moves you through obstacles faster
Reminds you who you are while you’re building something meaningful and profitable
That’s exactly why I created The Right Room.
The Right Room is my core mentorship and mastermind experience for women building small businesses. It’s a four-month cohort designed for solopreneurs and business owners who are already generating revenue, know who they serve, and are ready to grow with more clarity, consistency, and ease.
We meet twice a month for 90-minute live sessions that include mentorship, teaching, hot-seat coaching, and group mastermind. You’ll be paired with an accountability partner for support between calls, and you’ll have access to a private community space to ask questions, get feedback, and stay connected in real time.
The Right Room is intentionally small and application-based, because the room itself matters.
If this feels like what you’ve been looking for, you can learn more and apply at The Right Room, or join the waitlist if the current cohort has already begun.
Because here’s what I know for sure:
You don’t have to carry your business alone.
And you’ll grow faster, and further, when you don’t.
Want to Go Deeper Into Why Community Matters?
If you want to hear the full conversation behind this post, you can listen to the podcast episode Why Women in Business Grow Faster In Community.
Listen now on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.